Trans identified individuals are more likely to be PERPETRATORS of crimes rather than victims!

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This is the SAME OLD cultural playground script I grew up with: telling the girls that if they don’t like what the boys are doing to ignore it, go away, or simply “boys will be boys.”

What’s actually happening in that playground (locker room) moment:

A common scenario:

• One group (boys) escalates intensity—rough play, teasing, intrusion

• Another group (girls) signals discomfort

• Authority response:

“If you don’t like it, go somewhere else.”

On the surface, that sounds like conflict avoidance.

But underneath, it teaches two very different lessons at the same time:

To the ones crossing boundaries (boys):

• Your impulse doesn’t need to be regulated—others will adapt around you

• External feedback (someone saying “stop”) is optional, not meaningful

To the ones experiencing the boundary being crossed (girls):

• Your discomfort doesn’t organize the environment—you must relocate yourself

• The solution is withdrawal, not response

So one side isn’t required to develop internal brakes, and the other isn’t supported in exercising external limits.

Why this matters (the deeper mechanism)

Healthy boundary development has two parts:

• Internal boundary: “I can feel my impulse and regulate it”

• External boundary: “I can respond when something crosses my line”

That playground message bypasses both:

• It removes the need for internal regulation in the initiator

• It removes the legitimacy of external response in the receiver

So instead of:

“Your behavior needs to adjust”

and

“Your signal matters”

The system teaches:

“Boys expand, girls accommodate”

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Clarity doesn’t disappear. It gets overridden.
You’re not confused.

You’re being trained out of trusting what you already perceive.

Over time, that creates a gap
between what you know…
and how you respond.

That gap is where self-trust breaks down.

If you’re noticing this, I’m teaching exactly how to interrupt it.

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Tuesday, April 28

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I respond to JK Rowling herself, expose her manipulations, and explain why “Pronouns are Rohypnol.*”

*I discuss this highly useful article by Barra Kerr as well as what Dr. Dionne Joseph has written on the matter.

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I have still have numbness at my breast cancer surgery site. Although I also have some lingering pain in the surrounding area, my doctors have told me not to use ice or heating pads so that I don’t accidentally harm myself.

It’s a good example of how it’s hard to have healthy boundaries when we are numb or dissociated. Both our internal boundaries and external boundaries become weak.

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Most women don’t struggle with boundaries because they can’t see what’s happening.

They struggle because in the moment,
They override themselves.
They hesitate just long enough to lose access to their own clarity.

This FREE short webinar is a reset.

We’ll focus on what actually breaks down in real time—and how to return to a place where your internal sense of “NO” is something you trust and act on.

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SPOT THE MAN!!

I’ve included 4 photos

- man who claims to be an actual trans woman

- man who claims to be gender fluid and some days is a trans woman and other days a man

- man who is a practicing cross dresser

- man who doesn’t claim to be anything other than a man

Which is which???

Which ones should women instinctively respond to as men? And which ones should women feel safe with while naked??

On the team was Olivia Moultrie who had to sue the NWSL to fight for the same rights as boys, to play professional sports at 15!

As is made clear by Moultrie’s case, sexism is something that women and girls in sports are STILL facing. Despite the disadvantages girls still face on the basis of sex, Rapinoe (who at the height of her career once lost to a boys under 15 team) wants to pull the ladder up after her and allow men and boys to compete in female sports if they claim to have identity issues.

XX-XY Athletics made a great response to Rapinoe’s position.

I don’t need to be kind to the men who violate my boundaries. These men’s behavior makes me angry. My anger is an alarm bell signaling that their behavior is out of integrity with my boundaries. This anger is appropriate to the situation.

It also signals to other women that it is safe to be angry at these men who degrade and disrespect us. Go forth and be firm in your boundaries!!!