“Jay” is a young trans identified man. He is the tenth or twelfth young person who has come to me with honest questions about his ideology and his experiences. I don’t take that lightly. Each time, I’m moved by the courage it takes to reach out to someone who might see things differently.
This 24-minute response is for him, and for anyone else standing where he is, grappling with the discomfort of self-rejection and opposite sex fantasy ideation. He is struggling with the obvious inconsistencies of trans ideology and the harms it poses to women. He feels at odds with his own participation, yet struggles to give up the identity altogether.
In this video, I’m not trying to give him all the answers. I’m trying to help him ask better questions, ones that might help him feel his feelings more fully. What does he feel right now? What does he hope to feel? Those two questions matter more than any label.
He’s thinking about a surgical path, so I wanted to be honest with him. Surgery is a gamble, not a guarantee. And it may not help him feel more. It may cut him off from feeling altogether.
To Jay and others like him, if you’re watching: I see you, I’m glad you asked, and my door is still open
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